I feel like I have to make a connection with each and every one of you. Like I need to come to your place and leave multiple thoughtful comments. I should reply to your comments so that you know I read and appreciated them. The social aspect of blogging is dragging me down. Add Facebook and Twitter to that and I'm just completely useless.
There simply is not enough time in the day for me to go out and comment on all the blogs I want to or reciprocate comments on the new followers here. I follow hundreds of blogs and I read about 10 on any sort of "regular" basis. I've tried having a separate folder/reader for the blogs I want to read regularly but I just feel so guilty. The emotional investment that I want to put into this "virtual relationship" you and I have is just too steep for me right now. It's not you, it's me. And it's kind of you. But mostly it's me.
How do you do it? How do you get all the comments and reply to them thoughtfully? How do you read other blogs? How is it that you can comment on EVERY post I make, faithfully, even though I only say boo to you once every couple of months?
Obviously I put too much pressure on myself. I've tried to say the hell with it and just post and not worry about reciprocating or making blog rounds but I just shut down. There's no posting OR commenting going on at that point. So I continue to sit here and stew in the guilt of not being a good blog friend.
The kicker? I know that there are going to be a whole bunch of you that say, "Hey! Don't even worry about it! We all get busy!" or "We still love you, heidi." and that just makes me feel even MORE guilty for not being better at this blog networking garbage.
Anyway. Just some thoughts. Verbal vomit and what have you.
I DO appreciate each and every one of you that reads and comments and emails me. I really, really do. I just suck at showing it. And one more thanks...
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This is me not leaving a comment. So you know... I do not comment on every blog I read. Most of the time, I don't have anything cool to say. I'm horrible about emailing the commenters. HORRIBLE... and I don't have anyone else's kids in my house in the afternoon. Give yourself a break. It's okay. Also...if I read blogs out of a reader I almost never comment because it requires and extra click and I'm lazy like that. This is your lucky day. I'm in the blogger dashboard ;)
I absolutely do not comment on every blog I read. I aim for once a year. And my poor, neglected blog doesn't get any comments when I post once a quarter.
Of course, if I really need to hear about where you stand on an issue or something, I'll just call you and talk to whatever kid answers the phone.
I only follow blogs I like, so that eliminates me not being able to comment on all of them. lol
I barely ever comment on the comments peaple leave me...
Don't sweat it, we all have shit to do.
I totally feel the same way sometimes. It almost seems impossible to keep up with at times. I have not followed a ton of blogs that I would have enjoyed just because I knew I wouldn't have the time to comment and really invest in the blog friendship. I have been really bad about returning emails and visiting new followers lately and I feel terrible about it...but then I just dump a few hundred emails from my inbox and I feel better! BTW I totally {accidentally} deleted your famous brownie recipe you emailed me. You should post it on your blog so I can find it anytime:)
It's nearly impossible to read and comment on all the blogs you want to. I used to do better when I first started blogging and I neglected my kids for my addiction. Now I just read a handful and I only post about once a week, so for real DON'T feel bad. And, I would totally say something witty about expecting you to comment on MY blog, but I have to get dressed, like, NOW or we're going to be late to speech.
It gets to be a lot, doesn't it — this mutual support thing? Lighten the load, yo. There's too much in the blogosphere to possibly keep up with. People understand you are a busy, busy, mom and most of us are busy enough as well not to keep tabs on who returns the attention.
Also, this is a great problem to have, no? It means you have many readers who connect to what you have to say. High five and a belly bounce!
I think this is a total load of crap and that you need to comment on every single thing I write. Even on the things I don't actually write... just think about writing. In fact, you need to bake me something and send it to me right now! I think I might even charge you a dollar for this comment...
Okay, seriously though... you have a bunch of kids, you watch OTHER people's kids, you lock your kids in the car and have to deal with poop on a regular basis. You shouldn't have to "thanks so much!" to every comment or "LOL" to every blog. You're only human after all.
♥ sécia
www.petiteinsanities.blogspot.com
P.S. I heart your blog and will continue commenting without feeling the need for you to reciprocate.
Hmmmmm - I've read your blog for months and months now and this is the first time I have commented. Most people don't comment on my blog - the only reason I know I have visits is from the traffic feed! I have blogs still in my reader that I consistently mark all posts as read - why I don't just take them out I don't know. If I can get a quick 1 - 2 minutes of enjoyment from someone's post but don't have time to comment that doesn't mean they didn't entertain me. It just means I couldn't think of some witty comment to make before heading back into real life. Heck this comment has taken me longer to write than some of my own posts!
Girl I rarely get to visit my bloggy friends. When I do, it is usually a catchy post title that will draw me in ... I just don't have the time I'd like.
So consider yourself interesting because you pulled me over here. hee hee
Bless ya and have a great 4th!
b
To make life easier for you.....I don't even HAVE a blog so you don't have to comment! Hahaha!
I follow you because I "met" you on MomsOnline years ago then there was another message board but it was closed and I forgot to check it and got shut-out. Anyway, I love your sense of humor and the way you are so open. I admire you and think you are an awesome Mom!!
I used to feel the same burden about blogging, Heidi. I even felt pressured about trying to write cute, clever posts on a regular basis.
I realized that life is too precious to waste, sitting in front of a computer for hours and hours every day. I gave myself permission NOT to reply to every comment or comment on every blog. If it touches me or makes me laugh, I'll usually comment.
I've been a terrible blogger lately. We're planning a wedding over here, after all! ;-)
I so look forward to reading you blog each day, it takes me away from my dull and dreary world, when things are just plain stupid here. Whenever I think I have it not so nice, I thank God I dont have to clean up messy green diaper do-do off a toddler; but then other times when things are really not so nice, I wish I was cleaning up do-do off a toddler! You are so fun to read. You should put you blog in a book and sell it, ala Sarah Palin, only way more interesting!!
I feel this way sometimes. Bu then I stopped.
You are right there isn't time in the day. I work weird hours so I have a couple hours late at night to myself, thats how I comment and read blogs.
But sometimes I just read.
Love your words!
Hmmm, I suspect it would probably be because you have five kiddos and you're busy. I have one teenager who is with his dad or his Dad's family 1/3 of the time, so I get quite a bit of alone time to blog.
So, totally understand and love ya anyway! ;)
Hey. You should worry about it! I don't care that you have 5 kids and watch everyone else' kids. That's your choice. So I don't care how busy you are. Life sucks. Boo Hoo Hoo. You love me, I love you. Whatever. Get over it. No more whining. I expect DAILY comments on my blog.No excuses. Oh. Wait. I don't have a blog. Umm, well, this is embarrassing.
Helpful?!
Luv ya!
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