Monday, January 18, 2010

Confidence

My oldest daughter is 10 (almost ELEVEN, Mom). She is wonderful and beautiful and funny and smart and kind and loving and oh, so very confident. She is not embarrassed to be in public with her dad and/or me. She still holds our hands and calls us mommy and daddy - even though her friends tease her endlessly about it. She tells them to be quiet, they should be so lucky as to have a mom and dad like hers, then invites them over for dinner.

She dresses a little unusually for most people's tastes. Some people are amazed that I let her leave the house - but when they ask me, I say, "Her bits and pieces are covered and she's not hurting anyone, so what do I care?"



Truthfully? I'm jealous. I'm jealous that she is confident enough to wear what she wants and not care what people say. I'm jealous that she can pull of such wicked cool (I'm old, aren't I?) ensembles, effortlessly.

She is such an awesome big sister and kids everywhere flock to her and want to be with her. There's a reason for that - because she's confident in who she is, and who she is is pretty darned amazing.

24 comments:

Dawn @ P.S.He loves you.. said...

Geez you forgot to say that it's because of her cool mom!

CUTE and Confident looks good on her!

Braley Mama said...

She dresses like me:)

purplemoose said...

My 7 year old requested a mohawk at his last haircut (no I haven't blogged it yet, I am behind!) and I am amazed at the people who are amazed that I would let him do "such a thing"!! What's up with that? It's his hair! Besides, I had no say in it, it was Daddy who did it. Still, what's the big deal???

Carol said...

What a great post about your special girl. Good for her and her confidence. I think it's a real testimony to who she is that everyone flocks to her and wants to be around her. And you, I'm sure, have played a huge part in that.

The Stiffs said...

Her confidence is a testament to you as her mother and you're right. She is wicked cool from one old fart to another.

JenT said...

What a great gal! Her clothing style reminds me of me a little. I used to wear whatever I wanted when I was younger. Got me some weird looks sometimes. ;) But anyway...you must be doing a good job with her. :)

-stephanie- said...

I think this is great! Good for her for being so confident. Give the parents some credit too.

My daughter dressed "different" for church on Sunday. I never would have thought to put together what she did, but it turned out real cute!

Lisa said...

And she will grow into a confident and powerful woman! Way to raise 'em momma!

Beth E. said...

You're not old at all...I wwas gonna say that she looks totally groovy, man...now THAT'S OLD! ;-)

She's adorable, and she's unique. After all, who wants a generation of cookie cutter kids? Certainly not me!

I'm glad you have such a great attitude about it all. When our boys were younger, I struggled a bit with perfectionism. I wanted them to look a certain way. Fortunately, I have a husband who tells it like it is. He showed me how important it is to choose our battles with our kids. Clothing? No big deal. Hair color/cut? It grows out. I'll save my lectures and drama for the other stuff!

ShellSpann said...

Well she is getting that confidence from somewhere! :) Obviously you are doing something right :)

Sara @ Domestically Challenged said...

I LOVE that she has an awesome style sense! I think that is somethign you are born with! Rock it!

p.s. was thinking of you the other day!

Sarah said...

I vow to let my kids wear WHAT THEY WANT, not what I want them to wear. This sort of freedom is the type of thing that turns into incredible passion, and sometimes success! Maybe she's the next Vera Wang!

Nikki B. said...

that's AWESOME!! you done good, heidi...you done good!

Kameron said...

Good for her!! I wish to this day that I didn't care what people though about me. Maybe I'll go buy some stripy tights and rock 'em!

He & Me + 3 said...

I think that is awesome and I love her tights. That is a great Leader quality. Good for her!

Kelli @ RTSM said...

She look so cute in that mismatched outfit! I with you...I wish I had the confidence to wear whatever I wanted and not worry about what other people think:)

Susie said...

I love how you admire your daughter's attributes:-)

Trudy said...

That's awesome...I hope she can keep that confidence her entire life, it's a priceless thing!

Lauren said...

The outfit looks cool on her. If I tried that (even in my youth) it just would have looked stupid.

And I think it is sweet that she still calls you mommy. I called my mom mommy at that age too until a "friend" started making fun of me for it. I did not have the self confidence that your girl. Kids are so mean sometimes!

Jen said...

Her confidence is awesome!

Beth in NC said...

What a good Mom! You allow her to have her own style. My poor kid ... I make sure her bows match her hair -- sock, shoes, all must match. Ok, she is 4 1/2, but still ... perfectionism is an issue. lol. God help me.

christy rose said...

What a sweet post! She must have some wicked cool parents to be that wicked cool! :)

Bridget said...

Confidence is gorgeous!

Bethany said...

I love it! I used to dress, well, intrestingly, but it was more of a little kid craziness. Nowadays I'm lucky to find two things that match for work. Haha!