I have a distorted view of myself. When I look in the mirror all I can see are my imperfections. My chin is too small, my cheeks are chubby, my skin is terrible, my teeth are rotten, my arms have swingy-skin, my stomach sticks out, my arse is too big and I give new meaning to the term "thunder thighs". And that's just my first glance assessment. Even though I've just lost a bunch of weight and dropped a few sizes it's just not good enough. Will it ever be good enough?
No, probably not.
I'm not sure what Rob sees when he looks at me but it certainly isn't the same thing I see. Thank God.
Rob? He think's my tractor's sexy. After 14 years and 4 kids he still thinks I'm beautiful and sexy. Though there are the odd times when I find the whole business annoying, I'm thankful that he has on rose colored beer goggles when he looks at me.
Don't tell him but I still have a crush on him, too.
Tuesday, August 11, 2009
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This is a sweet post. I love that you still have a crush on your Hubs. Crushes are hard to come by...
I think as women we should all have a pair of rose colored beer goggles when we look at ourselves.
I think you look great (not that my opinion matters here one little bit) but I don't think I'm alone in that observation....
I think the better term for your bottom would be to say that you gave lots of junk in the trunk, no? I always liked that term, though I would never actually use it to describe my loved one, if I know whats good for me...
Perfect post. My man has on some "rose colored beer goggles" too. Thank goodness. I too think you look just great.
Your picture cracked me up Heidi. You're a mess girl. Ha, I think we all do that to ourselves. I don't know why. :-/
I'm glad my husband looks with love goggles too. Oh my!
Ah..nothing better than some tractor love! That's cute, I have a crush on my hubs too.
I often feel the same way. About all of it - the image + the crush! :-) I thought the post was very sweet, too...
So sweet! btw, your distorted view of yourself is totally inaccurate! I think you look great!
We're always so much harder on ourselves!
I still have this image in my head of what my body looked like before kids. I still think I should have it, even though I know it will never be the same. Think positive thoughts. You're a Hottie Mommy!!
Luckily men aren't as critical...or as observant as we are. What's funny is, even when I was skinny, I thought I was fat. I look back at old pics where I look awesome and think that I must have been crazy for seeing what I did. I actually think i love my body more now that it has grown my babies. I appreciate it for the power it holds...even if it still is, and most likely won't be again, perfect!
My hubs still thinks I am too and I just don't understand. I wish I could see myself as he sees me or better yet as God does. Boy would that help my confidence level a bit.
You look great!
you're a trip heidi!! men don't see what women do when we look at ourselves. (thank God)
I agree with you on every point. I see myself the same as you see yourself and my hubby see me the same way yours sees you! Don't you ever just sit back and wonder why? I know I do!
As far as the video goes, I love it and I love Trace but do you think if he would have gotten off his ass to help his wife instead of looking at her like a piece of meat she would be more apt to stay awake a little for him at night? I know it's just a video but it sums up so many woman and our need to "do it all" and "do it to excellence" alone most of the time.
So glad my hubby is hands on!
What a beautiful post! Funny, beatiful and profound. I will probably remember the mirror picture and your words all day. Just yesterday a friend of mine shared these words with me:
"If I didn't have kiddos, I would look so amazing, but I know that being on this planet is not about the tent we live in. Who cares about tents?"
That was encouraging. I tend to beat myself up too much. This is also wonderful - thank you for reminding me that my husband thinks I'm sexy. I don't understand it but I might as well enjoy it.
My heart got all mushy and melty with this post. I think that horrible way of myself too, and my hubby doesn't see any of it. It is never good enough. I complained about myself years ago when I was 20 pounds lighter and more firm. How I wish I looked like that now!
I don't drink beer so we know I am not wearing those goggles. Perhaps its that I am not looking for the flawless women. Maybe I think that a natural women, one with life's so called flaws IS what beauty is or what sexy is.
Besides, you gave up your young not beat up body to give me children...4 of them. That was because you loved me and wanted to have my children not once but four times and I am sure you would do it again. Whats not to love in that? What's not sexy about that?
Hey, I guess I will take that - stretch marks and all - over the air brushed super chic....even over Marilyn Monroe! ;)
so nice and so true... why are we so hard on ourselves and what the heck do our husbands see? Thanks for the sweet moment and crazy picture - you are a master at words!
Yeah for you!!!! Im not always sure what my hubs thinks but he puts on a good face!
Aww, you've warmed my cold, dark heart!
You are smokin!!
Awww...what a cute post! You always make me smile. :-)....see?
Well, I think you look great! but I'm also happy that my guy has rose colored beer goggles as well!
Yeah, ain't it the truth? Look in the mirror and all you see is bad! As long as he likes it, that's all that matters!
I'm right there with you on the distorted vision of myself. I can't ever look in the mirror and not pick apart everything that is me. I feel that I look disgusting and thick, and if people could see me without clothes they would shudder.
And yet, Jimmy can't see it. And even though I never believe him, I never want him to stop telling me he thinks I'm perfect.
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