Gonna be serious today, folks. Fair warning.
Do you know what birth defects run in your family? What kind of illness that tend to be familial traits? Do you know about your genetic makeup?
Well, let's say you didn't, but now you do. And now that you do, you know that if you were to have more kids they would stand about a 20% chance of inheriting a birth defect. And what if that birth defect could possibly requite surgical intervention or lifelong support?
So let me ask you this - do you chance it and have more kids or do you not? Why or why not?
I'm just askin'. No real reason or anything. Honest.
Shut up, you, and just answer the question. Please.
Tuesday, June 30, 2009
Subscribe to:
Post Comments (Atom)
Posts
26 comments:
Depends on the birth defect. For many years I thought my daughter's seizure disorder was from her father's side of the family. Prior to brain surgeries we learned it was a birth defect that could have been caused by either side. Weighs heavily on my thoughts of having more children.
def depends on the birth defect. although...my kid's was supposed to be no big deal and ended up being a HUGE deal...so, i guess, either way, you never know.
if it was something seriously debilitating, with serious physical and/or mentail impairment...i would say, prolly not.
This is a hard one to answer. Because I'm not in this place. My family has members who are in this place. And most of them have chosen to have children anyway. Because there is no guarantee in life whether or not you know your genetic make up.
This one would require some prayer and some soul searching. There are parents out there who truly can handle difficult challenges with their children. And there are others who cannot handle a hangnail without a Valium to help them along.
I don't know! I have always declined genetic testing during pregnancy because for me, termination is not an option and I just wouldn't want to have to make that desicion while I am pregnant. If I new ahead of time that it was a possibility I might lean towards not having more.
That is an incredibly tough question. I've always avoided genetic testing because I couldn't personally terminate a pregnancy. But its so different when you know in advance isn't it? Of course we all want a healthy baby... Is it life threatening? If it was, I would adopt. It would break my heart to watch my child suffer and think that I brought that onto them knowingly...but if it requires a surgery and isn't life threatening with a low quality of life I would pray and proceed.
I am with the others on this one, how hard is it to make this decision? I am not sure.
I couldn't, in good conscience, get pregnant if I knew there was a good chance of passing a birth defect on to my child. My friend has a lot of problems with autoimmune stuff. Her mom had it and so did her grandma. It is safe to say that if she has a child they would probably have it to. She has chosen not to have kids so she wouldn't pass this horrible affliction on to them. 20% chance is kind of low, but if the defect were bad enough, I think I wouldn't risk it.
Twenty percent is not a really big percent to me...that means that there is an 80% chance that everything would be fine. That being said, it would also depend on how severe the birth defect was and how it affected the child's quality of life. I think it would also depend on how many other kids you had and how badly you wanted to have more kids!
For me it would depend on the birth defect and how many children I already had!
20% Chance isn't that great of a risk. I don't know the statistics, but I bet the risk of anyone having a baby with some type of birth defect is about that high!
If I had no children and desperately wanted to be a mother, I would probably pray really hard and decide to go ahead and try for a healthy baby!
As the others said I think the type of birth defect DOES play into it. But having gone through genetic testing because of my age at the time I got pregnant I was willing to take the chance. Now granted this was my FIRST and ONLY child so I am not sure I would risk it again, even with no family history of problems.
This is a tough one, first of all, for me...I don't have the family medical history since I'm adopted, so I suppose the point could be moot. However, if I did have the information at my disposal, I would first and foremost pray about it. Of course it would depend on what the defect or disability was and how it would affect the quality of life of this little person. I trust that God would lead me on the right path!
I think it would depend on the defect, what support my child would potentially need, what type of life they would have. I have absolutely love being a mommy and carrying my babies - I would gladly adopt if I couldn't have kids - but I think I would still have a baby despite the odds (and really 20% isn't too bad). I've known a few mothers with special needs/high needs children and there is a reason God gave those children to them...if he chose me to care for one of these special kids than I would, and gladly. Add to that - no pregnancy is garunteed, regardless of parental health or genetic fitness, mutations happen all the time...its all a crap shoot.
I say go for it. Two reasons:
1. Children are a blessing from God, no matter their physical or mental capacities. And He tends to give parents of children with "special needs" extra capabilities and/or social supports. I've seen it happen!
2. Everybody has familial traits. My hubby and I have both lost parents/grandparents to cancer, or heart disease, or whatever. . . all those are genetically passed on. If everybody who had any sort of familial trait decided to not have children, well, we'd be living in the last generation on earth!
I think I would still have them but plan and plan and plan before I did. I would want to make sure that I had the money and the resources in place to deal with it. Just because the child has a defect, doesn't mean that they cannot add something positive to the world.
I was one of those 20% kids. With a lot of sad circumstances that would have led to many liberals calling for my mother to have "terminated".
So I guess I do have a dog in this fight.
My little sis has severe juvenile diabetes. Her second daughter died a day after birth from defects.
She now has a third daughter who was born perfectly healthy.
I think it's something to decide prayerfully... there's no right answer for everyone - only a right answer for you.
But me... heck yeah, I'd lay odds against that 20% :)
Hmmm. Well genetic, first of all, does not have to be done only after you get pregnant! You can be tested for things before you get pregnant.
As a person who was born with a genetic illness, this is a hard issue for me. I personally would not risk it. Just my opinion though! I think many people put their own wants and needs and desires in front of the possibly affected child.
I do know familes who had a child with CF and continued to have children, some of which also were born with CF. I just would not risk that.
absolutely. because god is god. and he's in control. 20% isn't a huge risk. i also have lost two precious babies. i would've taken them no matter what was 'wrong'.
A friend of mine posed this same question to me the other day. I say, pay attention to what the drs advise but most importantly listen to God and follow His will for your life.
That is a hard one. My answer is if I prayed about it and really felt there was a child that needed to be in our family, I would take that chance and love the child no matter what.
We have something called Polycyctic kidney disease that runs in our family. It affects bewtween 50 - 75% of people who have the gene. My dad had it and all three of his siblings too. I am hoping that science catches up and finds a cure before it affects me and definitely before it affects my kids.
XOXO
Jen
Like the others it would depend on the defect, but when you say life long support I'd have to consider if that was the best way for a child to live.
I am repeating the same thing several have said...I believe ALL children are a gift from God. Even if a family has no history of birth defects, their child isn't immune from that possibility. So I would go for it!
That is a really hard question to answer. My husband and I have decided we are done with two. We always thought we wanted more but we feel done. I don't want to push my luck. My kids are healthy, happy and great.
Girl, I honestly don't know what I would do. I'm struggling with the whole kid thing anyway.
I have a friend whose second had a defect and they were told that chances were high future children would have the same defect. They used preventative measures...and still got pregnant. Healthy girl.
Still taking preventative measures, got pregnant again 3 months after the birth of their third. This time it was twins!! Two boys, both healthy. Now they have 5 kids, only one with the defect. Bottom line? God is the creator and the giver of life. Each one is fearfully and wonderfully made. But those words are easier to spout off than to really grab hold of and pattern your life...and childbearing...around, at least for me.
Depends on the defect and what it would mean for not only the child's life, but the life of the rest of the family. My cousin was born with a very serious genetic illness that is very rare and could not previously be tested for. It had a pretty serious impact on the entire extended family, but some dramatic effects on the immediate family. In addition, while he was expected to die young, he defeated the odds many times and lived into adulthood. There was much planning - and luckily enough financial resources - for how to have him cared for after his parents were gone. Unfortunately, he died at 30, so those plans went unused.
I'm glad I knew him, but had there been testing available and my aunt and uncle had decided not to take that risk, that's something I would totally understand.
Quite thought provoking post. This is hard. I think it would depend on what the birth defect was... where my husband and I were in our relationship... # of children we already have...
Tough because I wouldn't want to subject a child to something that would perhaps give them no quality of life. BUT I also believe that things happen for a reason, and perhaps if the child did end up with the defect that our way of working through the situation would be a testament to others.
Dang... hard question. Next one make it not so tough... ok? lol
Zithromax is a macrolide antibiotic drug class, patients will be issued a type of bacterial infection. The drug is the active ingredient azithromycin helps fight many different kinds of infections, the right of the airways to the skin and the ear of sexually transmitted Ones. This medicine is also prescribed for the treatment of middle ear infections, pneumonia, tonsillitis and sore throats in children.
There are many generic versions of Zithromax is now available on the market, with most pharmacies stocking more than one version. There is not much to compare between these different drugs, which would be only the information you find altered even be on the manufacturer. When you buy generic Zithromax online, it could either be in pill, tablet or capsule form, according to the manufacturer. It is also a suspension for child patients.
CLICK ON THE LINK BELOW TO GO TO ZITHROMAX !
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
[url=http://zithromax.gaia.com/profile]Buy Zithromax Online[/url]
[url=http://www.deafforum.co.uk/index.php?/user/9879-order-zithromax-online/]Order Zithromax Online[/url]
[url=http://showhype.com/profile/buy%20zithromax%20online/]Buy Zithromax NOW![/url]
[url=http://corot.dmca.yale.edu/~dmca/forum.cgi?pid=buy_zithromax_online]Buy Zithromax Online Cheap[/url]
Post a Comment