Yesterday on the Seriously Secret post there was a comment left...the very first comment, actually. It said:
I have a friend that I don't really feel like we're friends anymore. She's moved on to this new group of friends and left a lot of us behind. It's like the new group of friends are better because they all think she's witty and charming and real. I'm second guessing that last part about her. It makes me sad. I will not stroke her ever expanding ego.
It was left anonymously.
I immediately became convinced that this was supposed to be a message for me. I became obsessed. I consulted people and I tried tracking down the poster - something I NEVER do on anonymous posts. I failed at that, by the way. Not really a super cyber sleuth. Alas.
I spent the day thinking it was for me and about me. Worried about who wrote it. Mad at the person that left it, whoever it was. Then I got all introspective and tried to be deep, thinking about the seasons of Friendship and a few of my friendships that evolved and just got outgrown by one party or another. Friends that were lost because we no longer had enough in common - not enough common threads to keep us connected. Friends that got lost in the overflow of life. *le sigh*
Then I found out that someone else spent some time thinking that the post was about HER!
Wait...what? You mean it's not always about me?
Maybe there's more of you out there that read that and thought, 'Is that person talking aboout ME?' Or, yk, maybe you all thought, 'Dude..who'd heidi piss off?' and I'm completely off base here. Wouldn't be the first time and won't be the last. At any rate, the point is this...
Sometimes, it's not always about me. Other things take precedence. Other people get to be front and center. Circumstances may not be as they appear. Objects in mirror are CLOSER than they appear. Seasons change. To everything (turn, turn, turn)... there is a season (turn, turn, turn) .. I digress. And that's not the song I want to implant you with today.
I want to impregnate you with this one:
And I'll try and remember that it might not always be about me, ok? Ok.
Have a day!
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14 comments:
Thats a lesson I have yet to learn, because it's always about me.
paranoia, paranoia, somebody's coming to get me............ I too am an over thinker. I just need to chill!!
I heard "You're so vain" on my way home yesterday. I don't know why, but I like that song to this day. Hopefully the person who wrote that will email you and let you know that you were not the subject of the comment. I know that none of my IRL friends blog (besides my cousin's wife) so i'm pretty sure she wasn't talking about me. Besides, I'm so not witting and charming so that was a dead giveaway right there!
You are silly! Don't sweat over that type of shit because it's just not worth your time. If it was about you then hopefully whomever would have enough balls to have "the talk" with you in person or even on the phone if they don't want to face you. How can someone say that about you anyway? Your cooler than sliced bread okay? don't ever forget it! :)
Human nature for those of us that care... that we think that things are about us... it's how we help improve ourselves, whether it really is about us or not... Wait... you mean it's not all about Heidi? LOL I love this song too... the original version... as it brings back memories of when Carly first released it.
You are so funny. I thought for sure this post was about me. Love that song though.
Well I have definatly lost friendships...but NONE that would translate into a comment on your blog...BUMMER...that would be juicy!
When I read the comment...I honestly did not think that it was about you. I think that person really needed to get something off her/his chest and honestly...even if it was about you....how could they say you are not REAL...DID THEY SEE THE POST OFFICE VLOG....doesn't get more real than that!
Hello!? It was about me. Sorry for the confusion!
It's you.. I think you are funny & real. So yeah it has to be you.
This has a big nothing to do with your post, but I wasn't sure how to contact you. I am getting an abundance of blog buttons in my sidebars. how can I get a widget to allow me to have the scroll bar that shows all of the buttons? Thanks for the help.
Pshaw...Gah...You think it's ALLL ABOUT YOU, don't ya, Ms. I'm so Witty, and Charming, and Real!!
Get over yourself already, NIKKI, er, I mean HEIDI!!! GAH!!! You think the whole world revolves around NIKKI, uh...I mean, HEIDI! Well, I got news for you, NIKKI...dangit...HEIDI!! IT DOESN'T!!
BAHAHAHAHAHAHA!! I TOTALLY thought the SAME thing when I was reading your post! HAHAHAHA! I was thinking "OMGosh, how mean! She can't get to me any other way, she's gotta leave nasty comments on other people's blogs..."
Oh my...how sad we all are! LOL
But I know for some of us, it's that overachiever thing that "everyone's gotta like us...." "if they don't like me, I have to either make myself better, or them look worse. ;)"
I remember on one of your earlier ones that anonymous person that talked about typing in CAPS to make a point, irritates them. I just KNEW they were talking about me because...well....err....yeah, I do that. I was all paranoid and tried for 2 days to STOP doing it. It didn't stick. It's how I am. I'm emphatic on some things I guess.
Well I just think you are the cat's meow, Heidi! And you leave message boards because you're so busy, I'll just stalk you where you are! LOL
Good lesson! Great reminder!
Is what "thing" on?
...Have you looked over your shoulder this morning? No not that shoulder the other one. Did you check between the cereal boxes on top of the fridge? Are the window coverings open or securely closed. What about the porch...did you check there too? It's a bitch checking the house for peepers but I am sure you did a thorough job.
Now you gotta go outside though, better go back and look in that full length mirror you bought at K-mart. Nothings wrong with K-mart just remove the tag. No worries there.
Are you really intending to wear that ahhh "cute" green shirt you picked up at the church bazaar out in public? Better buy some new undies today. You never know when you may pass out in the sun and those "muscled paramedics" don't want to cut off those "grandma panties" you insist on wearing. Have you lavishly wash your luscious locks in that designer shampoo again? My goodness...does it have a ingredient for overly frizzy hair? I have always thought those grey whispies were cute...errrr extremely mature and just lovely on someone like you.
Oh yes...very importantly...have you taken care of those bullies picking on YOUR children. Such a shame that they chose YOUR children to experience the hardships of growing up. Don't you just wish you could slap the K-rapp outta that kid down the street?
Go ahead stalk him in the shadows of sundown and then run really fast. You can still run can't you?
It's great to be in your thirties...just wait for a few more years to gently pile up against those supple child bearing hips...what a blessing those kids are.
Gee it's been wonderful chatting with you! I do have to expose the rest of the world with my charming wit. So it's off to work for me!
You go out there and get them girlfriend... remember you can count on me as a true friend!
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